Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since ancient times. Extramarital relationships can be filled with evils, cause heartache, and other troubles. Also you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, funds, age dissimilarity, religious upbringing, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating for married.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seeking extramarital affairs. I suppose typically though it is just the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us flee the world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to turn the craving on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against extramarital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will overcome their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but society too. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your relatives or anyone else? You would need to reduce the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major grouping, colossal in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your savings are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Ignoring, sadly this is a common groung I fear. One or the other, generally the husband is sexually neglecting his female for a multitude of reasons. As a man I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is disappeared, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown apart, our relulas interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.